Love Language Profile for Teenagers

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One or both of your parents is wondering if they are speaking your love language. If they haven’t already explained it to you, your primary “love language” is basically one of the following: words, touch, quality time, gifts, or service. Your parent(s) also receive and express love in one of these ways and often their love language is different from yours. That’s why, even though you hear them say they love, sometimes their expressions of love fall flat.

You might be thinking, “Great, my parent(s) are trying to ‘get to know me better.’” But give them a break! They just want to make sure that you know they love you. So take this test! You’ll learn something new about yourself, and it’ll help your parent(s) love you better! When you are finished, consider taking some time to share the results with your parent(s) as well.

You’re going to see 30 pairs of things that your parent(s) might do or say to show love to you. All you have to do is pick one item in each pair that you like better. For some of them, you might like both options—but just pick one. Allow 10 to 15 minutes to complete the profile. Take it when you are relaxed, and try not to rush through it.

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Your Love Language Personal Profile

You’ve completed the assessment — now look at your score to reveal your primary love language. Learn more about your love language on the next page.

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Interpreting Your Profile Score

The highest score indicates your primary love language (the highest score is 12). It’s not uncommon to have two high scores, although one language does have a slight edge for most people. That just means two languages are important to you.

The lower scores indicate those languages you seldom use to communicate love and which probably don’t affect you very much on an emotional level. Learn more about your primary love language and how to put it to use next to the corresponding badge below.

Not what you expected? If the results don’t seem right, discover some other ways to determine your primary love language.

If the results don’t seem right, here are three other approaches to discovering your love language:

First, observe how you most often express love to others. If you are regularly doing acts of service for others, this may be your love language. If you are consistently, verbally affirming people, then Words of Affirmation is likely your love language.
What do you complain about most often? When you say to your parent(s), “How come I never get a back scratch any more,” you are revealing that Physical Touch is your love language. When your parent(s) goes on a business trip and you say, “You didn’t bring me anything?” you are indicating that Receiving Gifts is your language. The statement, “We don’t ever spend time together,” indicates the love language of Quality Time. Your complaints reveal your inner desires. (If you have difficulty remembering what you complain about most often, I suggest that you ask your parent(s). Chances are they will know.)
What do you request of your parents most often? If you are saying “Will you give me a hug?” you are asking for Physical Touch. “Do you think we could go to the mall and have some time together?” is a request for Quality Time. “Would it be possible for you to clean my room for me?” expresses your desire for Acts of Service.

Important to Remember:

You may have scored certain ones of the love languages more highly than others, but do not dismiss those other languages as insignificant. Your parent(s) may express love in those ways, and it will be helpful to you to understand that they are trying to show you that they love you.

It will benefit your parent(s) to know your love language and how to express affection for you in ways that you interpret as love. It wouldn’t hurt for you to know your parents’ love language, too. Every time you or your parent(s) speak each other’s language, you score emotional points with one another. Of course, this isn’t a game with a scorecard! The payoff of speaking each other’s love language is a greater sense of connection. This translates into better communication, increased understanding, and, ultimately, an improved relationship.

If your parent(s) has not already done so, encourage them to take The Love Languages Profile. Discuss your respective love languages, and use this insight to improve your relationship with them.

Words of Affirmation

Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten. You thrive on hearing kind and encouraging words that build you up.

Quality Time

In Quality Time, nothing says “I love you” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes you feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed activities, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful. Whether itʼs spending uninterrupted time talking with someone else or doing activities
together, you deepen your connection with others through sharing time.

Receiving Gifts

Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures. Gifts are heartfelt symbols to you of someone else’s love and affection for you.

Acts of Service

Can helping with homework really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most wants to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter. When others serve you out of love (and not obligation), you feel truly valued and loved.

Physical Touch

A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, and thoughtful touches on the arm—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive. Appropriate and timely touches communicate warmth, safety, and love to you.

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