Some years ago it was popular in certain psychological circles to believe that releasing anger by aggressive behavior would be positive if the aggression was not toward a person. Thus, angry people were encouraged to beat pillows, punching bags, and dolls or to take their aggression out on a golf ball. However, research now indicates that such behavior makes one more likely to explode in the future. The answer begins by asking the question: Why am I angry? If someone wronged you, then Jesus gave clear instructions. You lovingly confront the person and seek reconciliation. On the other hand, if you are angry simply because you did not get your way, then your anger is not legitimate and needs to be confessed as selfishness. Verbal or physical explosions are not acceptable ways to handle anger.
This language uses words to affirm other people.