Unhealthy patterns of communication can destroy a marriage. However, you can’t correct them until you identify them. Here are four common negative patterns: (1) The Blamer, “It’s your fault.” No matter what it is, you blame your spouse. (2) The Peacemaker, “Whatever you want is fine with me.” Even if you have opinions you don’t share them, because you don’t want to start an argument. (3) The Professor, “Let’s be reasonable.” You see yourself as a person of logic. You explain it as you would to a child. And, that’s exactly what your spouse feels. (4) The Statue. You don’t talk. “Ignore her and she will go away” is your philosophy. Want some help? The book is entitled: Now You’re Speaking My Language.
October 7, 2014