We talk a lot about the importance of communication in relationships, but we don’t often evaluate our communication. Yet, how we talk greatly affects the quality of our conversation. Many have developed unhealthy patterns of communication and wonder why their conversations seem to go down hill. One such pattern is the placator. “That’s fine with me.” Or, “Whatever you want is fine.” It’s really not “fine,” but this person does not like arguments, so, on the surface they simply agree, but inside they resent the attitude of the other person. We will never have an authentic, relationship until we learn to share our honest thoughts and feelings. You might begin by asking, “Would you really like to know my thoughts?” If they say, ‘yes’, then share them.
September 23, 2014