Q: Wouldn’t it be easier and more satisfying for couples if their love languages matched?
Dr. Gary Chapman: I think the short answer is yes. If you both have the same love language it may be easier. Typically, what I have found with couples who have the same primary love language is that each individual has preferred ways of expressing or receiving that love language. For example, one may like words of praise and the other may like words of encouragement. Those are somewhat different. So yes, it may be easier if this is the case, but this is not a criteria for whom you should pursue. People with differing primary love languages can form wonderful marriages.