Q&A: How do I change my attitude about giving quality time?

Question: My love language is words of affirmation and my finance’s is quality time, but I am a bit of a workaholic. I always feel the stress of obligations I have above my desire to spend time with him. How do I change my attitude to want to serve him in this way?

Answer: I think the first step is to recognize that there are priorities in life. And People are more important than projects. The job is always going to be there—there will probably always be more than you can get done. But the more important thing is your relationship with this person. If we make people I priority, then speaking their love language becomes one of the things we’re committed to doing­­—and we’re doing it because this is more important than working late tonight. Giving quality time can be difficult when you’re a busy person but making time for priority is the key.