Value of Apologizing

I was giving a lecture on the five languages of apology.  At the break a man approached me and said:  “For the first time in my life I understand the value of apologizing.  My father’s philosophy was that ‘apologizing get’s you nowhere.  Do the best you can and never look back.’  That’s pretty much the way I lived until my wife committed adultery.”

“So, what would it take for you to forgive her,” I asked?  “I want her to admit that what she did was wrong and to promise me that she will never do it again.  If I knew that she would never do it again, I think I could forgive her.”

This husband was demonstrating the necessity of apologies.  There are no healthy marriages without apologies and forgiveness.


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