Comments on: Speaking Love through Physical Touch

By: KAREN

KAREN — Thu, 22 Apr 2010 22:15:14 +0000

my husband knows my primary language is physical touch, during our first years of marriage he used to touch me all the time, he had a mechanical car and used to wish to have an automatic car so he could always hold my hand while he was driving, 6 years later he barely touches me, he tries to hug me or pat my back but it feels so fake, like a big effort or a favor, I look good I am 27, he is 45 I do not know what is the problem, he says that he is hurt and can’ touch me because he does not like me but if I don’t feel love is very hard for me to love him back. what to do?

By: Dewayne Dodd

Dewayne Dodd — Thu, 18 Mar 2010 19:26:16 +0000

I would like to find out the answer to Phil’s question. My girlfriend and I have the same problem. We just want to be near each other all the time and when we have to go home at the end of the night it is almost painful. We have such a great relationship too. She is my best friend in the whole world and we just need to find a way to regulate ourselves as well as get the physical touching in too.

By: Phil Worthington

Phil Worthington — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 10:11:22 +0000

My girlfriend and I both have physical touch as our primary love language, and quality time as our second, so we end up spending long periods of time hugging. We're actually struggling to find enough time in the day to build it in, and often end up staying at each other's houses until 3 or 4am simply because we hate to be physically separated! We're trying to control this as we can't afford to be tired all the time, but the urge to be together is very strong. How can we regulate ourselves and still get the physical touch and time we need?

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 01:43:01 +0000

My primary love language is physical touch. My wife says that I am too touchy feely, and I overwhelm her with love & affection. I know I have to "limit" how much love/affection I express to her, and it is difficult/confusing.

By: Catherine

Catherine — Thu, 26 Mar 2009 04:17:00 +0000

Touch is my love language, but my husband is not from a touchy-feely family. Since reading “The Five Love Language” in our early married days he has worked hard at expressing love to me in a way I readily accept. I have to remember though that sometimes I need to ask for a hug when I’m needing one. Asking doesn’t lessen the giving, or reduce its effectiveness. And my hubby is a great guy – but not a mind reader!

By: Jenna

Jenna — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 20:51:00 +0000

I am not a physical touch person, so this is a difficult language to speak.

By: Fruitfulvine2

Fruitfulvine2 — Mon, 16 Mar 2009 12:22:00 +0000

My husband’s primary love language is physical touch and I’ve had to learn to speak it more often. I’ve had to plan it out sometimes just so I don’t forget. It is not totally automatic yet but a lot better than before.