By the time a child is 9 years old, he or she is better able to identify and express his or her feelings about love than when he or she was younger. Parents still have to keep in mind that children this age have a limited attention for and limited interest in such things as helping you determine their love language. The following online “game” should help you in your research.
Tell your child you would like help solving “The Love Language Mystery Game.” Explain that you need him or her to look at a list of “clues” and that these clues are comments that parents sometimes make to their children. Your child will see a set of 20 clue boxes, each with two comments. He or she must pick one of the two comments in each clue box based on which comment they like better. Explain that at the end of all the clues, you and your child will see their results and solve the mystery. If your child asks what the “mystery” is or what it is about, you can simply explain that it’s a game in which parents are trying to learn what makes kids happy or what they like to hear their parents say.