Category: Loneliness

Do’s and Don’ts of Depression

If you know someone who is depressed, let me give you some Do’s and Don’ts. First the Do’s: encourage them to go for counseling. Let them know that if they want to talk, you want to listen. Look for life-threatening symptoms such as suicidal talk or actions. Inform the counselor of such talk or actions. Invite them to do things with you. And pray for them daily. Now the don’ts: Don’t tell them that they have nothing to be depressed about. Don’t tell them to snap out of it. Don’t tell them that the problem is spiritual. Don’t tell them that the problem stems from their past failures. With proper help your friend or family member can work through depression and be able to move toward independence.

Q&A: Holidays and Loneliness

Q: The holidays are always a lonely time for me as a single. Do you have any advice?

Dr. Gary Chapman: Don’t court loneliness; instead, reach out to people. If no one is reaching out to you–half the world doesn’t reach out to anyone–you be the one who reaches out. No matter what the relationship, take the initiative to be with people. Chances are, you’ll not only deal with your own loneliness, but you’ll also enrich the lives of those around you.