Category: Workplace

The Difference Between Recognition and Appreciation

Do you know the difference between recognition and appreciation? Most companies focus on recognition and think people feel appreciated. However recognition puts the emphasis on performance and uses “words of affirmation” or “tangible gifts” as their methods. This misses half of their employees. Recognition is also “top-down” and often becomes routine. Appreciation, on the other hand, focuses on the person. They may not be performing at their peak, for many reasons, but when you express interest in them as a person, they are motivated to become more involved. It is the difference between treating people as machines who crank out the work and people who have feelings, frustrations, desires, and dreams. When people feel appreciated, they want to be a part of the team.

Helping People Feel Appreciated

Because we spend so much of our time on the job, I have been deeply interested in workplace relationships. Why would we not want to make things as pleasant as we can for everyone? One ingredient is helping people feel appreciated. However, what makes one person feel appreciated will not make another person feel appreciated. Thus our efforts often get rebuffed. We fail to hit the target in how to express appreciation. Dr. Paul White and I wrote a book to help you be more successful in your efforts: The 5 Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace. A free online inventory: Motivating By Appreciation will give you the persons primary, secondary and least important language of appreciation.

When Was the Last Time You Verbally Affirmed a Coworker?

Can you recall a time within the last week when you verbally affirmed a coworker? If so, what did you say? How did they respond? If you saw them ‘light up’ and come alive, you can assume that words of affirmation is their primary appreciation language. However, if they brushed off your comments, you can assume they have a different appreciation language. We believe that the five love languages which have helped so many couples connect emotionally also have application in workplace. However, don’t assume that your primary love language at home will be your primary appreciation language at work. Work relationships are very different from family relationships. But love and appreciation are essential to healthy relationships.

One Size Does Not Fit All

Are you a business owner, CEO, or President of your company? Would you like to see reductions in employee turnover, improved attendance and productivity, greater customer satisfaction, more positive relationships between supervisors, staff, and colleagues, and a more positive corporate culture and work environment? Dr. Paul White and I believe that the book: The 5 Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace, will help you accomplish all of those objectives. When people feel appreciated they are more engaged, they give themselves to their work. The Key is learning how to express appreciation effectively. You may give them a gift, but they would much prefer words of affirmation. One size does not fit all.

Differences in Communication

“I used to think that I was doing a good job of expressing appreciation to those who worked for me. However, when we took the Motivating By Appreciation inventory, I discovered that many of my employees had very different appreciation languages.” What this manager discovered is what many managers are discovering: what makes one person feel appreciated is not what makes another person feel appreciated. The Motivating By Appreciation inventory comes free with the book: The Five Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace. Dr. Paul White and I are thrilled with the results we are seeing in all types of companies: from hair salons to construction companies, people are learning how to effectively express appreciation and thus create a more positive workplace.

Creating a Positive Emotional Climate in the Workplace

Words of affirmation, acts of service, gifts, quality time, and physical touch – you know them as the 5 love languages. But I also believe they are the 5 languages of appreciation in the workplace. Let’s face it, we spend long hours each day in our place of employment. Why not seek to create a positive emotional climate so that all of us enjoy of jobs more. Don’t wait for your supervisor to read the book. Read it yourself and challenge your group of co-workers to discuss and discover each other’s primary appreciation language. The book? The 5 Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace. Dr. Paul White and I are seeing this book change the emotional climate in thousands of businesses around the world. Why not yours?

Emotional Climates in the Workplace

Do you and your co-workers feel appreciated for the work you do? One employee who was leaving his job for another said, “It’s not about the money. It’s just that no matter what I do – how long I work or what I accomplish – I never hear anything positive. If I make a mistake, I hear about it immediately, but if I do my job well, there is silence.” I believe that thousands of employees can identify with this statement. That is why Dr. Paul White and I teamed up to write a book which addresses this issue. The 5 Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace. We believe it will help managers and supervisors be more effective in their efforts to express appreciation.

Why the Disconnect?

One recent research project found that while 51% of business managers felt they expressed adequate appreciation for good performance; only 17 percent of the employees felt appreciated. Why this disconnect in workplace relationships? I believe because we make the mistake of thinking that what makes me feel appreciated will make others feel appreciated. This is a false assumption. Just as we have different love languages in family relationships, we also have different ‘appreciation languages’ in the work place. Dr. Paul White and I wrote a book entitled: The 5 Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace. We believe that learning to speak a person’s primary appreciation language will yield amazing results in the workplace.

The 5 Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace

Understanding the 5 love languages has helped many couples restore emotional intimacy. Over 11 million copies have been sold and it has been translated into 50 languages around the world. Now, we are taking the love languages to work, but we are calling them languages of appreciation. It is the emotional need to feel that those with whom and for whom I work appreciate me. If I feel appreciated, I will give my best to the job. If not, then I may only do what is required. We hear much in business circles about employee engagement. We want employees to be committed to the company and give their best. If you are a supervisor, manager, or employee: The 5 Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace will help you effectively communicate appreciation.

Appreciation in the Workplace

If you are employed, I have a question for you. One a scale of 0 – 10 how appreciated do you feel by your immediate supervisor? How appreciated do you feel by your co-workers? Our research found that 70% of those who work feel under-appreciated. 64% of those who leave a job for another say they did so primarily because they did not feel appreciated. Dr. Paul White and I wrote a book entitled: The 5 Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace. We believe that one person (you) can change the emotional climate in your workplace. The key is learning how to express appreciation in a language that the other person understands.

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