Category: Aging

Investing Your Life

“It’s not how long you live, but how well you live.” You’ve heard it. I’ve heard it. But, it’s really true. Ultimately, age has little to do with success. It is not how many years we have to live, but how we use the years that we have. My sister died at age 58. I have a close friend who died at 52. Recently, a 24 year old graduate student in our church died. As I listened to the eulogies, I realized that he had accomplished far more in 24 years than many people accomplish in 80.

The key is to invest life one day at a time. Do something kind for someone every day. When you do, any day will be a good stopping place. It was said of Jesus, “He went about doing good.” We are called to follow His example. He said, that we are to love one another as He loved us.

Q&A: Being Old and Attractive

Q: As an older woman, how can I be more attractive to my husband who continually tells me that only the young are beautiful?

Gary Chapman: I believe the older we get, if we’re walking with God, the more beautiful we become. Because real beauty, is not on the outside; real beauty is a matter of the heart. And the person who’s demanding that his wife look young when she’s not young is being very unrealistic. He’s exalting physical beauty above spiritual and emotional beauty. Make the most of what you have, but let’s face it: most people are not super models, nor do you need to be in order to have a good marriage. I do think it’s something you need to talk about because perhaps he is distorted in his thinking about what makes a good marriage; it’s certainly not physical beauty.