I’m Separated. Now What?

You are separated, but you really don’t want a divorce. You want to follow the Biblical ideal of seeking reconciliation. How do you go about it. First, you must not allow your emotions to control you. I didn’t say that you should not have emotions. Hurt, anger, disappointment, and pain are often the emotions of separation. Or, you may feel relieved, free, happy they are gone. Whatever your emotions, you must not allow them to control your behavior. If you do, you may murder your spouse. The Christian is called upon to seek reconciliation. This means we must take constructive action. Such action may mean that I must go against my feelings. Prayer is the best place to begin. “Lord, you know my feelings, but I want to be controlled by your spirit, not my feelings. Show me what action I should take and give me the power to do it.” Such a prayer is the first step in the right direction.

Practically Speaking: Week of April 22

Written by Gary Chapman

Week of April 22, 2019 We could all use a little creativity when it comes to speaking love and appreciation to others. Here are some suggestions that will help get you started: WORDS OF AFFIRMATION: Before you sit down to eat, place a label or sign on each chair describing who is to sit there—“Best..... Read More

Practically Speaking: Week of April 15

Written by Gary Chapman

Week of April 15, 2019 We could all use a little creativity when it comes to speaking love and appreciation to others. Here are some suggestions that will help get you started: WORDS OF AFFIRMATION If your friend enjoys making art (songwriting, painting, creative writing, etc.), take time to sincerely compliment his or her workmanship...... Read More

Practically Speaking: Week of April 8, 2019

Written by Gary Chapman

Week of April 8, 2019 We could all use a little creativity when it comes to speaking love and appreciation to others. Here are some suggestions that will help get you started: WORDS OF AFFIRMATION Next time you overhear someone saying something nice about a friend, relative, spouse, or coworker, pass it along. Send a..... Read More

Practically Speaking: Week of April 1, 2019

Written by Gary Chapman

Week of April 1, 2019 We could all use a little creativity when it comes to speaking love and appreciation to others. Here are some suggestions that will help get you started: WORDS OF AFFIRMATION Does someone you care about need some encouragement? If so, consider secretly reaching out to as many of their friends,..... Read More

God’s Way Of Rebuilding a Marriage

Written by Gary Chapman

You may not have positive feelings toward your spouse, but you are choosing to give them unconditional love every week by doing something for them that you know they want you to do. There is a good chance that within six months, you will hear your spouse say “This is great. I can’t believe the..... Read More

What Can I Do To Make Your Life Better?

Written by Gary Chapman

“I’ll treat her better when she treats me better.” “I’ll treat him better when he treats me better.” Such an attitude misses out on the power of unconditional love. Unconditional love is the choice to love your spouse no matter how they treat you. Let me give you a suggestion: Go to your spouse and..... Read More

Who Will Take The Lead?

Written by Gary Chapman

All of us would like to think that someone loves us unconditionally. The child longs for this kind of love from his parents, but husbands and wives also desire unconditional love from each other. The wedding vow was to love “in sickness and in health, in poverty and in wealth, so long as we both..... Read More

Using The 5 Love Languages in Education

Written by Gary Chapman

So, your spouse has failed you. But now, they have confessed their wrong and are seeking to change their behavior. What are you to do? In the Scriptures, forgiveness is always the Christian response to confession and repentance. Remember, forgiveness is not a feeling. It is a decision to lift the penalty and declare the..... Read More

Dealing Effectively with Failures

Written by Gary Chapman

You don’t have to be perfect to have a good marriage. But, you do need to deal effectively with your failures. Otherwise, they sit as barriers to a growing marriage. How do you get rid of past failures? First, you identify them – write them down. Second, you confess them as wrong – to God..... Read More