Ask for Forgiveness

If you want to improve your marriage, and you are open to trying the radical teachings of Jesus, then the first step is get alone with God, and pray this prayer: “Lord, you know what I live with, and you know how they treat me. But I know that I’m not perfect and what I want to know is where am I failing in my marriage. What am I doing and saying that I should not? What am I failing to do and say that I should?” That is a prayer that God will answer. He will show you your failures. I suggest that you write them down as God brings them to your mind.

1. I was not kind last night. I was harsh and cutting with my words.

2. I have been withdrawing lately. Not willing to talk or express interest in his life.

3. I’ve been acting like God is dead and hope is gone. Write them down and confess them to God. ‘Lord, I know that these are wrong. I confess them to you. Thank you that Christ has paid for these sins. I ask for your forgiveness.”

According to scripture, the moment you ask, you are forgiven. Thank God for His forgiveness. “Now Lord, help me to do something good with my life today.” You have taken the first step in improving your marriage.

Practically Speaking: Week of April 22

Written by Gary Chapman

Week of April 22, 2019 We could all use a little creativity when it comes to speaking love and appreciation to others. Here are some suggestions that will help get you started: WORDS OF AFFIRMATION: Before you sit down to eat, place a label or sign on each chair describing who is to sit there—“Best..... Read More

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Written by Gary Chapman

Week of April 15, 2019 We could all use a little creativity when it comes to speaking love and appreciation to others. Here are some suggestions that will help get you started: WORDS OF AFFIRMATION If your friend enjoys making art (songwriting, painting, creative writing, etc.), take time to sincerely compliment his or her workmanship...... Read More

Practically Speaking: Week of April 8, 2019

Written by Gary Chapman

Week of April 8, 2019 We could all use a little creativity when it comes to speaking love and appreciation to others. Here are some suggestions that will help get you started: WORDS OF AFFIRMATION Next time you overhear someone saying something nice about a friend, relative, spouse, or coworker, pass it along. Send a..... Read More

Practically Speaking: Week of April 1, 2019

Written by Gary Chapman

Week of April 1, 2019 We could all use a little creativity when it comes to speaking love and appreciation to others. Here are some suggestions that will help get you started: WORDS OF AFFIRMATION Does someone you care about need some encouragement? If so, consider secretly reaching out to as many of their friends,..... Read More

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Written by Gary Chapman

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Written by Gary Chapman

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Written by Gary Chapman

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Written by Gary Chapman

All of us would like to think that someone loves us unconditionally. The child longs for this kind of love from his parents, but husbands and wives also desire unconditional love from each other. The wedding vow was to love “in sickness and in health, in poverty and in wealth, so long as we both..... Read More

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Written by Gary Chapman

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Written by Gary Chapman

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