Q+A: Believing the Best

Q: Gary, when a relationship has weathered several trials, and then a partner suddenly “sees the light” and starts changing (for the better), how does one go about trusting that the change is real?”

Gary: Well you won’t know ultimately until you give it some time. Why not hope for the best instead of saying, “I just can’t respond to you because I don’t think this will last.” Why not say, “I’m glad to see this change taking place in you and I pray that we can continue to grow in our relationship.” If you create a positive climate then it’s more likely to continue than if you are negative by suggesting to them that it is not going to last and that they’re just trying to manipulate you. That sort of thing gets you nowhere. Believe the best.