Q&A: Love Languages, Nature or Nurture?

Q: Gary, how and when are the love languages determined?

Gary: This is an excellent question, but I don’t have an excellent answer. The reality is that we don’t know exactly how the love languages are formed. Is it nature or nurture? Are we born with them or do we develop them early? I do know you can determine a child’s love language by the time they are three or four years old. How do they reach out to do? If they’re hugging you or always touching you, then physical touch is their language. So I don’t have an answer to that, I just know that they’re there very very early in life.