One of the most common conflicts between husbands and wives is how to discipline the children. “He’s too harsh,” the wife says. “She lets them get away with murder,” the husband says. The conversation goes down hill from there. Their arguments leave them wounded and resentful. The basics of child rearing are not difficult to understand. The first fundamental is that children need to feel loved by mom and dad. Understanding the five love languages has helped thousands of parents learn how to love children effectively. If children don’t feel loved, they are far more likely to rebel against almost any form of discipline. Get on the same page. Make sure your children feel loved.