Q&A: More like a Mother than a Wife

Q: I feel more like a mother to my husband than a wife. He is unwilling to change. What should I do?

Gary: There are many couples who are in a situation similar to yours. Part of it has to do with personality, but sometimes a husband doesn’t take initiative because when he has in the past his wife has condemned him. If she does so verbally and his love language is Words of Affirmation, this is extremely painful to him. From there, he decides that it’s better to let her make the decisions. Whether or not this is your situation, ask yourself why he is not taking initiative in the relationship. Ask him directly. You may discover that you need to change the way you respond to him when he takes initiative.