Q&A: Your Relationship to Your Children

Q: I’ve been told that it’s not good to be called “your child’s friend,” but we should always be a parent. What do you think?

Gary: I think it depends on what you mean by “friend.” I think you can be both a parent and friend to your children. No, you are certainly not their peer. You have more wisdom, maturity, and responsibilities. You set the boundaries and bring discipline to your children when appropriate. In being friendly to them don’t cease to be a parent. It’s not either/or, but the emphasis is on parenting.