Q: How do I give Words of Affirmation to my spouse when it doesn’t come naturally?
Gary: When we don’t speak a language by nature, it is certainly a challenge. If you did not receive affirming words growing up, it will probably be more difficult to speak those words. You have to learn to speak another language. I suggest you write down some statements you’ve heard other people say and say them to yourself in the mirror. Then go to your spouse and just say one of them. Each subsequent time will be easier. You have to practice learning a new language.