If you’re married and your spouse has disappointed you again, don’t despair. Couple’s often have different ideas of what a marriage ought to be. Sit down today and make a list of the things you wish your spouse would do. Then, make a list of the things you appreciate about your spouse. Thank God for each of these positive traits. Then thank your spouse. Speak your spouse’s love language at least once a week. Then once a month share with your spouse one thing you would like for them to do. Make sure it is a request, not a demand. For example, “Do you think it would be possible for you to vacuum my car one evening this week?” If they respond positively, then express appreciation. Don’t worry about the 10 things he did not do. Thank him for the one thing he did.