Q&A: I’m Social, but my Spouse Isn’t

Q: I’m a very social person but my husband isn’t. Is it wrong for me to pressure him to do more?

Gary: What you have to realize is that it’s a personality difference. Those who are extroverted get energized by being around other people. Those who are introverted get energized by being alone. So, it’s not wrong for you to pull him in, but it’s also not wrong for you to let him pull you out. There needs to be a balance; don’t stop inviting him, don’t stop asking him to go with you to things. You will pull him into experiences he would never have had if he were not married to you. Give him a good time and expose him to things that he will enjoy. Just don’t badger him about it, and give him the freedom to not always go with you.