Janice bounced into my office and said, “I’m getting married.” “To whom and when?” I asked. “To David Brown in September,” she said. “How long have you been dating?” “Three weeks. I know it’s crazy. I can’t believe it myself, but I know David is the one for me.” Later, I discovered that David had been married twice before, had three children, and had lost three jobs in the past year. None of this seemed to phase Janice. “I’m so happy,” she said. “I have never been this happy before.” Janice was in for a rude awakening. Two years later she was back in my office saying, “I think I’ve made a big mistake.” Janice illustrates that ‘falling in love’ is not the foundation for marriage.
Better check out “the other stuff.”