Real Love is not ‘Falling in Love’

Some researchers have concluded that what we call ‘falling in love’ is not love at all. This conclusion was reached because of three reasons: (l) Falling in love is not an act of the will or conscious choice. It just happens to you. (2) Falling in love is effortless. We do outlandish things with no effort at all. (3) The ‘in-love’ experience does not encourage us to help the other person grow. We view them as perfect; no need for growth. In the Bible, real love is a choice, requires effort, and seeks the well-being of the other. It may start with euphoric feelings, but when these fall aside, real love will continue. Real love doesn’t walk away when the feelings subside. Real love is the foundation for life-long positive relationships.