Q&A: When to Talk About Marrying

Q: I’ve been dating my boyfriend for over a year. When is it appropriate to bring up marriage?

Gary: Anytime now. If you’ve been dating for a year and you think there is potential for you two to be spouses, there is nothing wrong with bringing up marriage. Most people who date do so with the thought, “Maybe this is the person I should marry.” Certainly you wouldn’t be dating for a year if you didn’t have any interest in marriage. When you do bring it up, you may find anything from a very positive response to a very negative response. If it’s super negative, it probably means you should consider letting this relationship go. If after a year he has no inclination to marry you, he probably never will.