Q&A: Getting Someone to Attend a Marriage Conference

Q: Gary, I really want my husband to attend one of your marriage conferences with me. Can you help me convince him it will be helpful? 

Gary: I wish I had a secret to do that. Many wives are more open to attending marriage conferences than are their husbands. I don’t know all the dynamics in that, but I think I would just be very straight-forward and say something like, “Honey, you know something that would make me very happy? If you would go to that marriage conference with me.” You’re just asking; you’re not demanding, you’re not being belligerent, but you’re making a simple request for something that would make you feel loved. He is far more likely to respond to a request than he is to a demand.