We are emotional creatures and one of our deepest emotional needs is the need to feel loved. When we ‘fall in love’ we think we have found the answer. It is heavenly while it lasts. Our mistake is in thinking that it will last forever. It was not meant to last forever. It is only the introduction to the book. The heart of the book is a love that is far more rational, and volitional. This is good news for those who have lost the ‘in love’ obsession, and are back in the real world. Now you can choose daily to do something that will be helpful to your spouse; to give them affirming words and tender touches, to buy them a small gift and to look into their eyes and say, “I love you.” When you do these things, warm feelings return.