Q&A: Love Languages and Time

Q: Can love languages change over time?

Dr. Gary Chapman: I believe that love languages, like many personal traits, stay with you for life. If a child is organized at 3, he’ll probably be organized at 33. Having said that, I think there are certain situations where love languages do appear to change for a period of time. For example, imagine a mother who has three young children; Acts of Service may not be her love language, but during those years it will certainly be very important to her. Physical Touch may not be a family’s love language, but hugs may become deeply meaningful to them during a time of crisis. To sum it up, love languages do not change, except for in exceptional situations for a period of time.