One of my books is titled Desperate Marriages. What is a desperate marriage? It is a marriage in which one or both of the individuals is involved in an activity that is extremely detrimental to the relationship: alcohol or drug abuse, verbal or physical abuse. Today I want to talk about the controlling spouse. These are the people that seek to dominate the relationship. This type of spouse is not mean-spirited, but he or she determined. In his or her mind, what is best is obvious. His or her attitude is, “Any sane person would agree with me.” Eventually, the other spouse feels like a child and feels no value in ideas of his or her own. If this sounds like your marriage, Desperate Marriages is for you.