Q&A: Your In-Laws’ Opinion of You

Q: My spouse’s family told me directly that they don’t think I’m “good enough” for their daughter. How can I handle this constructively?

Gary Chapman: From my perspective it is unfortunate that they’ve expressed their opinion. As parents of married children we need to stay out of the equation unless they ask us to come into the equation. Obviously, it’s very discouraging when your in-laws express such opinions. Don’t take it personally though; that is, don’t focus on this. Focus on being the person you believe your wife needs you to be: love her, care for you, protect her, be the husband she wants. In a few years, perhaps your in-laws will change their mind. Ultimately however, it is far more important what your wife thinks about you than it is what her parents think about you.