Q&A: What Does it Mean to be In Love?

Q: What does the phrase, ‘in love,’ mean?

Gary Chapman: Different things to different people. For some people being ‘in love’ means “We’ve got what it takes to have a good marriage. We’re in love and we’re gonna get married.” For others who have a little different perspective they recognize that the ‘in love’ experience means “We have heightened emotions; we’re deeply attracted to each other physically, emotionally, and perhaps even spiritually.” The difference is that this second group wouldn’t necessarily think that meant they should get married. There are a lot of other things they would look at in terms of intellect, emotions, values, spiritual walk, just a large number of things that need to be considered before they make the decision to get married.