Q: How important is it to get your future in-law’s blessing before marrying their daughter?
Gary Chapman: It is ideal, but you may not always get it. That doesn’t necessarily mean, however, that the two of you shouldn’t get married. There are some in-laws for whom no one is ever going to be good enough for their daughter or son. But you can try, you can reach out, you can make an effort. If they say no, you should slow down and find out why. Listen to what they are saying and be realistic. Don’t let their opposition push you to marry each other. Consider it and make sure you know what you’re doing. However, I wouldn’t say you always have to base your decision on the blessing of your in-laws’ blessing.