Q&A: Managing Stress Healthily in a Marriage

Q: Do stress and anxiety cause intimacy problems? I just don’t feel like the same person I was earlier in our marriage.

Gary Chapman: It is true that all of us have some level of stress. Anxiety, on the other hand, is a different matter. That’s the word we often use when we really mean worry. We are worrying when we are spinning our wheels and getting nowhere. This will affect intimacy in our marriage. It’s going to affect the whole of life because we are going to have a much more negative attitude toward life. All of us have a stress level and we need to learn how to handle it. The biblical challenge is to pray instead of worrying. And then the peace of God which passes all understanding will keep your hearts and your minds.