Q&A: How Quiet Couples Can Learn to Communicate

Q: My husband and I are both ‘dead seas’ and never talk.  How can we communicate better?

Gary Chapman: Well, it’s very unusual for two ‘dead seas’ to marry each other, and by ‘dead seas’ we mean people that naturally don’t talk very much. What you may want to do is get some questions that you can ask each other that will stimulate conversation. Dead seas are not going to just start talking all of the sudden but they talk best when they’re asked a question. I wrote a little book some years ago called 101 Conversation Starters For Couples. Every page has another question. You just turn the page every night and ask another question. Each of you get to respond to the question. It’s a simple and organized way to get dead seas to talk more.