How to Balance Marriage and Parenting, Pt. 1

There comes a time in most marriages when two become three.  Sometimes, two become four, five, or six.  Let’s freely admit that when children arrive, they greatly affect the marital relationship.  One young husband said, “I’ve lost my wife.”  “What do you mean by that?”  I inquired.  “I’ve lost my wife to the baby.  Her life is focused on the baby; my life is focused on the baby.  It’s like the two of us do not exist anymore.”  Can a marriage survive children?  You bet, but only if you make marriage a priority.  Notice I say ‘a’ priority.  Both marriage and parenting are priorities.  There is time and energy to do both.  However, to sacrifice the marriage is not good parenting.