Q: What if I’m speaking all of my wife’s love languages but she’s not speaking mine in return?
Gary Chapman: Well, if you truly are speaking her love language and if she genuinely feels your love. then you can make requests of her. You can say, “Honey, you know something that I’d like for you to do…” and tell her something that’s in keeping with your love language. And because she is feeling your love, she’s more likely to do it. Don’t sit there hoping that sooner or later she’s just going to reach out and speak your language. It’s alright to make requests of her. Essentially, you’re teaching her how to speak your love language by making specific requests. Chances are, she’s going to respond.