Q&A: What’s really important in marriage?

Q: “What is your definition of the ideal marriage and what is the single, most important thing to achieve?”

Gary Chapman: An ideal marriage is two individuals—a man and a woman—committed to Jesus Christ, looking to Him for instruction in how to live, and in the power of the Holy Spirit loving, encouraging, and helping each other to become everything that God intended for them to become. I believe that is God’s plan for marriage. A husband reaches out to love, encourage, and support his wife. She reaches out to do the same for him. The result is both partners accomplish more in the kingdom of God together than you would have accomplished as individuals apart from each other. Marriage is meant to be a loving, supportive, caring relationship that pushes each spouse in the direction of God and His purposes for our lives.