Q&A: Speaking Gifts is Hard for Him

Q: “My love language is gifts, but he has a hard time speaking it. Because of this I feel misunderstood. I give specific suggestions, but he’ll instead bring something home for me from the hardware store and it just doesn’t cut it. Can you help?”

Gary Chapman: Maybe he doesn’t understand. Either you or someone needs to sit down with him and communicate the love language concept. Just like he would want you to speak his love language, you would like him to speak yours. You say you give him suggestions—that’s good. You might even want to write those things down. I might even suggest he take his sister shopping with him when he goes out to buy you a gift. This could provide him with the proper insight from a woman’s perspective allowing him to fare better than he would on his own.