The need to feel loved by one’s spouse is at the heart of marital desires. A man said to me recently, “What good is the house, the cars, the place at the beach, or any of the rest of it, if your wife doesn’t love you?” Do you understand what he was saying? “More than anything, I want to be loved by my wife.” Material things are no replacement for emotional love. However, most of us focus on “getting love” nor on “giving love.” But Jesus said, it is more blessed to give than to receive. Why not ask your spouse: “What could I do or say that would make me a better husband or wife?” Their answer will tell you how to love them most effectively. When you love them, they are more likely to love you.