Q&A: Husband Viewing Pornography

Q: My husband has struggled with viewing pornography. Where do you suggest I start in dealing with it.

A: Many men are lead down a trail that leads to emptiness and lonliness. The pornography world is not a real world. I do think you have to take a strong stand—if you request that he not be involved in that and it doesn’t help, and typically it doesn’t, you take the tough love approach. You say to him, “I love you too much to sit here and do nothing while you walk down this trail.” Then you decide what you’re going to do—move out, live with your mother for a while, see a counselor—and then you do it and follow through. When he realizes there is a crisis and that you’re not going to accept this as nomr