Q: What is the best way for my husband and I to help a couple from church who are in the process of getting divorced?
A: First of all, I want to commend you for desiring to help the couple. First of all, listen to the parties involved. Let your husband listen to the husband. You listen to the wife. Hear their stories and how they perceive the sitution. The two of you share that information with each other. Then as you go back to them, you’re better prepared to know what to encourage them to do. Typically, each of them is blaming the other and they are not seeing their own faults. I think when you hear each of their stories, you may be able to help them understand each other better. It’s understanding that leads to reconciliation.