Honoring Parents Without Being Controlled By Them

A common question I hear in my office is this: “I want to honor my parents, but they are constantly trying to give us advice. How do I let them know that we need to make our own decisions?” Three things are important when you are dealing with parents who give advice too freely. First, you must understand that their intentions are good. Second, there is a good chance that your parents have more wisdom than you. Third, it is true that your parents should not control your life after you are married.  So, I have four suggestions: (1) ask for your parent’s advice before they give it. (2) Give consideration to what they say. (3) Pray for God’s wisdom. (4) Make the decision that you and your spouse think is best. This is honoring parents, but not being controlled by them.