Q: My boyfriend says that it’s too early in our relationship to start praying together. Do you have an opinion on when is the right time?
A: I think that there are couples who pray together on the first date, and every time after that. So the spiritual dimension of the relationship is good but it often doesn’t deal with the intellectual, emotional and social aspects of the relatioship. Praying with someone else is a very intimate experience. You’re expressing your heart, your thoughts and your desires to God. It creates a very deep connection with that person. I don’t think there is anything arbitrary about when you start praying in a dating relationship but I think your boyfriend understands that there is a danger in over spiritualizing your relationship, and not dealing with the other aspects of your relationship.