Q: My husband is a very “social” person and seems to flirt with other women. It’s driving me crazy and I don’t know how to deal with it.
A: If there are certain things that your husband is doing that causes you discomfort, I think those need to be shared with him (not in a condemning way). That is, you’re saying to him, “I know this is probably not what you have in mind or your intention, but this is how I feel when you do this…” Rather than just saying that he flirts with other women, be specific about what it is that stimulates feelings of discomfort inside of you. You have to reveal your own emotions so that he comes to understand how his behavior is affecting you. You can’t make him stop but if he understands how deeply it’s hurting you, he may likely be motivated to stop.