Q&A: Married Following An Unplanned Pregnancy

February 15, 2013

Q: We have friends who got married years ago because of an unplanned pregnancy. After 20 years they are now talking about divorcing. Is there still hope for them?

A: I don’t think it has to do with the fact that they got married because she was pregnancy. I think it has to do with the fact that they have not developed their relationship over these 20 years. Yes there’s hope for them. If they’re willing to read a book, go to a marriage conference, or go to a marriage counselor, they can rebuild their marriage. Any marriage can be enhanced and there are certain fundamental things that we can do that will enhance the marriage relationship. I would encourage this couple to take constructive action. Their can be renewing of their relationship.

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