Q&A: Is A Man’s Primary Need Sex?

Q: Is it true that a man’s #1 need is physical intimacy or sex?

A: I don’t think so. I think a man’s primary need for emotional health is to feel love. That’s why, not every man has physical touch as his primary love language. Learning to speak the husband’s primary love language, I think, will meet his deepest emotional need. Although, I don’t want to minimize the sexual pat of marriage; meeting a man’s sexual needs in the context of marriage is an important part of marriage. However, it doesn’t stand necessarily above his need to feel loved. His his love language is Words of Affirmation and he feels condemned and put down by you, the sexual relationship will not take care of that need. It will meet his sexual need but will not meet his need to feel loved.