Q&A: How To Encourage A Discouraged Friend

Q: I have a friend who always talks about what a failure he has been in his life in regards to past decisions. What can I do to help encourage him?

A: I don’t have a pat answer for that. I do think it could be helpful to listen to them talk about their past decisions and how those things played out. Also, perhaps helping them get a different perspective on their past decisions. Seldom is it simply their decision-making that’s in call here. Often times, there are circumstantial things that cause the decision to turn out poorly.

Then, perhaps help them make a decision. If they are facing a decision say, “Why don’t we talk our way through this; let’s see if we together can make a wise decision.” That also can be helpful for people who don’t trust their own decision making.