Q&A: Love Languages And Depression

Q: How does the Love Language concept work in a relationship where the spouse has been diagnosed with bi-polar disorder and depression?

A: Whatever our mental state, depression or otherwise, we need to feel loved. It’s one of the most fundamental needs that we have. And I think, because of that, the love languages apply fully as well when your spouse is bi-polar, suffering from depression or some other difficult mental struggle. We can’t think of the love languages as something that’s going to cause all mental struggles to disappear. But I would say, don’t give up on loving the person in their love language even though they don’t seem to be responding to that. Let the doctor and counselor deal with the depression and bi-polar situation but you continue to love in their love language.