Q: My fiancé and I are constantly at odds over how to plan our first years together and how best to spend money. Can you help?
A: I’m glad you’re running into this now before you get married because this is a common problem in marriage. If you don’t learn how to resolve theses conflicts before you get married, you’re setting yourself up for failure in marriage. So, I’m really glad that you’re acknowledging, “We’ve got a problem here.” I wrote a book a while ago called, Things I Wish I’d Known Before We God Married. One of the chapters is about how to solve conflicts without arguing. I think you’d find that book extremely helpful. The reality is that if we don’t learn how to resolve conflilcts, we’re going to live in a war-torn zone in marriage. So, it’s worth the effort to learn how to listen and resolve conflicts.