Q: My husband and I have the exact same love language. Why do we feel disconnected?
A: Many times, if a couple happens to have the same love languages, they have different dialects within those languages. So, you still think that what makes you feel loved makes them feel loved. The best way to handle that is to say to them, “Okay, so Words of Affirmation is your love langauge. It’s my love language too. What are the kinds of words that you like to hear from me? And where do you like to hear them? In private or in public?” So, find out something about the nuances of speaking their love langauge. That’s the key: learning to speak their language and their dialect of that language.